Relationship Topic - 11 Things You Need in a Wife
#1 She Fears the LORD
She loves God so much she would never do anything to displease or disappoint him.
She rejects the things of the world, and pursues the presence of God. Worldly enticements don’t attract her, she rejects them.
Her Best friends are Godly – They point her to Godliness not to wickedness. They give Godly counsel. And they always speak life and unity over your relationship, they do not sow seeds of discord or divorce. Remember these are the people who will have influence in your marriage!
She is submissive to God, to her parents, and those in authority. She is humble.
She is completely honest, and quick to repent. The Holy Spirit’s conviction moves her quickly.
(#1 She Fears the LORD)
#2 She is an Obeyer – Full of The Spirit and the Number One Counselor & Godly Influence in your life.
She is growing daily in letting God make her time, thought and money decisions. And she is willing to walk with you.
She is full of the Spirit. Gentleness and wisdom flow from her to you and others. God uses her to confirm his leading in your life, and at times to gently challenge you to reconsider if your perspective is not Godly.
You are more Godly and more obedient to God because of her daily influence in your life. You are a better person with her, than without her. She doesn’t keep you from what God is calling you to do, she propels you in it! She fills your gaps, you fill hers.
(#2 She is an Obeyer - Full of the Spirit)
#3 She Lays Down Her life For You
She is willing to give up her dreams to support God’s calling and anointing in your life. She knows that her calling will be fulfilled in yours. She trusts God to fulfill her dreams within the Purpose He has for both of you together. She knows it’s not about you, or her, but what God has for each of you and both of you together.
She is willing to live life together with you from this day forward. She never wants to be apart from you. The sacrifice of living life together is a joy. She will do whatever she can to marry you; whether accelerate her education, get a job to help you finish yours, save money for your upcoming needs, or whatever God leads her to do. You are her priority over anything and anyone else. She puts you first.
She will love you whether rich or poor, whether you play in the NBA or dig ditches. She will marry you as soon as God leads or wait as long as God requires. She will not want to be separate from you, but be joined together from this day forward.
She's your best friend. She shares everything in life with you first. You are always the first to know, and there is nothing about her life that you do not know. She keeps nothing hidden. She seeks and honors your counsel, she is willing to submit her life to you because she trusts God in you, and she can trust you, because she sees you laying down your life for her.
She submits to God’s leading through you as you love her. She trusts God in you, and seeks and honors your counsel. She trusts God to move your heart and prays for you daily.
She is not only in love with you, she chooses to love you and lay down her life for you, as you are doing for her. She is asking God daily how to love you and demonstrate her love for you in ways that you understand.
(#3 She lays down her life for you)
#4 You can talk about anything
You can talk for hours. You never run out of things to say.
You never get tired of being together. You would rather be with each other than with anyone else. And you can talk all day, or all night long. It’s just easy.
(#4 You can talk about anything)
#5 She is your heart’s desire
She makes your heart beat a little faster every time you see her. She makes you a little weak in the knees. There is a mutual sexual attraction, she’s not a sister. She is the desire of not only your heart and emotions but your body also. (This is not a focus, in fact you both choose to honor God by not dwelling on this at all. This is for the future, not right now. All sexual activity you reserve for marriage alone, not before, to honor God, and your marriage and each other. But if she doesn’t make your heart race, she’s probably not the one.
(#5 She is your heart's desire)
#6 She is Completely Loyal – willing to leave and cleave
You are her number one priority of time and attention. She never chooses other friends or activities ahead of you. Not that she doesn't invest time in female friendships as God leads, but you are always her priority.
She defends you, and stands up for you. She does not allow any of her friends to speak negatively about you or your relationship. She guards what counsel she allows into her mind and heart. She protects your reputation, she defends your honor. She constantly tells others what a man of God you are, and how much she appreciates the things you do to prove your love and your faithfulness to her. She tells others constantly about how you lay down your life for her. Her friends wish that they had a husband like you and are praying that God will bring them one. She is training them to love their husbands as they see how much she loves and honors you.
She desires to live life daily with you, whether you are together or apart. She seeks God together with you for HIS plan for your day and week. She is committed to spending time with you at every opportunity that God directs.
When she is apart from you – she is focused and diligent in pursuing what God is calling her to do, so that you can have more time together, whether just time focused on each other, or the work that God is calling you to, or time for ministry to others together.
She only surrounds herself with friends who speak life and unity in your relationship, not seeds of discord, doubt and divorce. They push her to be faithful to you. If her friends won’t support your relationship, she cuts them off. She never allows any of her friends to speak badly of you to her or others.
She is committed to protecting your relationship and marriage from every negative influence. She loves you more than her friends, and will reject any influencer who does not encourage her commitment to God and to you. She chooses friends who will help her be faithful to you, and who recognize and support the priority of your relationship with her - over theirs. True friends – those that you want to have for a lifetime when you are married.
(#6 She is completely loyal, willing to leave and cleave.)
#7 She is Completely Faithful, You fully trust her
She is committed to you alone. She forsakes all others.She doesn’t pursue any other male friendships, she discontinues them. She guards her eyes and her affections – reserving them for you alone. She doesn’t send any mixed signals, she cuts off every advance from other guys. She doesn’t spend time with girls on the hunt, she removes herself from all environments where the focus is on the opposite sex.
She demonstrates Hedges Daily with you. She appreciates and values your complete purity and faithfulness to her. She has eyes for you only, and fixes her eyes straight ahead. Everyone knows she is in a committed relationship. No one doubts her faithfulness to you. She is a Godly example of a wife who is completely faithful to her husband. Her friends learn from her example how to be a Godly wife, even before you are married.
She doesn’t go out with her friends like she used to. All the single ladies looking for their next romantic encounter. She’s not drawn to the ‘action’ but to the LORD’s presence and your company. Her action is fulfilling God’s assignment for her today, and spending every moment that she can with you. She doesn’t need to go out with her friends to have fun, or just relax or blow off steam. She is content with working as unto the LORD, and wants to invest every minute of non-working time she can - with you.
(#7 She is completely faithful. You fully trust her.)
#8 She doesn’t love money, she just obeys with it
She is content with dollar menu. She trusts God to provide for your entire lifetime. She is willing to marry you when you’re poor; and she’ll stay married to you whether poor or rich, NBA or digging ditches, Caviar or Ramen Noodles.
She doesn’t need the finer things in life, has no requirements of a certain lifestyle, rather is grateful and praises God for every blessing that He provides.
Her security and stability is in God, not things. She is willing to marry you whenever God says, whether you are completely broke, or just inherited wealth.
She’s a giver, and trusts God to provide for your needs, and if He provides excess - she is willing to share with others. If God brings wealth, it is to redistribute at His direction, to grow in the grace of giving, not to grow in lifestyle. She can enjoy the blessings God gives without feeling guilty, but she doesn’t require the finer things in life, or the American Dream.
Her dream is living life with you, however God leads. She trusts him fully to provide and is content with what she has. She has no financial requirements, her desire is for both of you to fully obey the LORD, and she knows that her security and stability comes from God, not job or career or savings in the bank.
She will marry you and love you with all her heart whether you have money or not.
(#8 She doesn't love money, she just obeys with it.)
#9 She is Diligent
She is focused on what God is calling her to do – she uses morning, afternoon and evening time slots at God’s direction. She is ready to leave behind high school life, or college life, to prepare for married life. It’s a joy for her, not a sacrifice.
She understands the season. She recognizes some seasons are for preparation, and she’s willing to give up leisure to prepare in season. She is willing to sacrifice in order to prepare for marriage. Whether that means finishing College early, taking on a job to help you finish, or saving money for your future together. She is willing to work, and sacrifice her old life, for the life God is calling her to - with you.
She not only works hard, but she works hard at the times God directs. She sees needs and fills them, but also only at God’s direction.
She understands sacrifice. She is willing to give up the lesser, to gain the greater. She is committed to preparing for a life of marriage, and the joint calling that God has for both of you.
(#9 She is diligent.)
#10 She points people to Jesus
She influences others for God, always pointing them to reflect Christ, and to pursue the Presence of the LORD.
She stands for God’s truth, speaks the truth in love, provokes others to love and good works.
She is soaked in the Word and in God’s presence, so her counsel is always Godly.
Her life is an example of separation from the world, but loving people in the world.
She has a reputation of Godliness. She is the crown that God gives to a man of God. You are respected at the City Gate because of her.
She does you good all the days of your life.
(#10 She points people to Jesus.)
#11 She Believes in You
She believes you are the most Godly man she has ever met. She trusts God in you. She is willing to go where you go, stay where you stay, be there for you - for life.
She actually thinks you are the best looking man on the planet, even though you are not. She thinks you are good at everything you do, even though you aren’t. She believes you can do anything that God tells you and anything you put your mind to. She thinks you are charming, funny, insightful, creative, and the most talented man on earth, even though it’s not true.
But it’s true to her, and she is beginning to make you believe it.
(#11 She believes in you.)
These are Eleven Things You Need in a Wife
She Fears the LORD She's an obeyer, full of the Spirit She lays down her life for you You can talk about anything She is your heart's desire She is completely loyal, willing to leave and cleave She is completely faithful, you trust her She doesn't love money, she just obeys with it She is diligent She points people to Jesus She believes in you
Man of God, if you will seek the LORD with all your heart - more than you seek a wife.
If you will delight yourself in Him, and let God make you into the Man He is calling you to be, (and the man this woman needs); God will surely in his perfect time bring across your path the woman of God that has been created to complete you, who you have been created to complete.
God will grow you together and fulfill the purpose He has for both of you. Together, you will reflect Christ to the world, so the world can be drawn to Jesus.
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