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Relationship Topic - 11 Questions to Ask
I just love God's Word. It is truth and life and it is love. It teaches you to be more about others, than you are about yourself. Are you going on a trip soon? Do you have car time with someone, or coffee time? It’s so easy to become occupied with the trivial, and never get to deeper places; those thoughts, feelings, emotions, core beliefs, heart attitudes, and core identity which affect your God view, your world view, even your you view.
The next opportunity you have for conversation time with a friend, new or old. Consider these 11 Questions to Ask:
to honor others, to discover them and yourself, or just go a little deeper. Once you answer these yourself, it's a new opportunity to hold up your answers to the lens of God’s Word, the truth that comes only from Him; so God can transform not only your thoughts and feelings, and beliefs, but your identity. It's how you truly become seated with Christ in heavenly places, when your identity in Him is reflected in your life.
Eleven Questions To Ask – that God can use.
1 What Do You Need Most from God Today?
Praying that you’ll review the Relationship Topic: The Best Question Ever. That you will ask this question of yourself and at least one other person, every day. Ask God for yourself – every day in PiVAT before dinner, and ask someone else, whether a close friend, or a perfect stranger. It will open a window into their heart. Ask God to give you the opportunity. He will, He wants to give truth and life to them, through you! A Daily Call will do this daily. You’ll overcome with it!
2 What are you most looking forward to?
This is an open-ended question, let them take it anywhere they want. Listen well. See 11 Things… about listening! So you remember to do it well, so the natural tendencies that are so common but ineffective in listening don’t surface.
3 What is the one thing you would change if you could? (In the world, or about yourself, or both.)
This is an identity revealer and a worldview revealer. What burdens someone may indicate part of the purpose God has for them. This insight into how you or they view themselves, can then be compared to what God says. It doesn't have to be in this conversation, you might need to pray and search it out later. For now, pray before you say. This is just to listen, love, and affirm them.
4 What is one thing you would do over if you could?
This isn’t to circle in regret, or pain, but it can provide insight, and a healthy reminder; wisdom from a lesson learned that God gave them. Transparency can begin the healing process, remind them to continue, and can lead to God’s truth if you choose to look.
5 What is your greatest hope or dream?
This gives you insight into what God might be leading them to, so you can help them get there, through prayer, Godly counsel, and encouragement. Remember, pray before you say.
6 What is your greatest success in your life?
This is a perfect opportunity for you to help them discover their testimony. Every success they have ever experienced, when it comes down to it, was God's blessing. Whether due to the resource or ability God gave them, or the strength and wisdom God gave them in the doing of it; any success is really a testimony of God's favor and provision. A great opportunity to just rejoice with them, affirm them, and give God the credit He deserves. “God must really love you; He gave you x, y, and z to do this!” Our successes are always testimony starters that we can overcome with; or praise starters, and God can go places with that!
7 What are the things that have made you successful? (That have most contributed to your success.)
This isn’t bragging, this is just giving them the opportunity to put into words the things that God has taught them, so they can be reminded and keep doing them. You could learn as well. This is another opportunity to measure what we believe is success against God's Word, just in case we have bought into the thinking of man, over the thinking of God. Always test whatever you hear and believe against the Word of God. It will take you to another level!
8 What is your favorite thing to do? How about your Top 3?
This draws to mind some great memories, and reveals how God created them, it helps you get to know them better.
9 Who is your best friend and why?
It’s not the who that’s the most important here, it’s the why. It reveals what they value, what value they place on themselves, and what they think friendship is. It reveals what they need in a friend, or what they think they need. It will tell you some things you can do that will bless them, and make them feel valued and loved.
10 What is your family like?
Their view of their family will indicate who they think they are, who they want to be, or don't want to be. Even what they feel about themselves. Family is so important; and if this is a wound, or a need in them, you can help fill that need with the help of your Father in Heaven.
11 What makes you the happiest? (It could be several things.)
This will reveal what they value and what makes them feel valued. It will give you insight into loving them well, to demonstrate the love of Jesus.
Praying that God will open a door for you to use these 11 Questions to Ask to make a deeper investment in your relationships with others. These questions invite them to express their thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and needs, which enables listening and learning. Before you use this tool, ask God if He wants you to review 11 Things about Listening. Praying that you listen well, and love well, so you can point them to the One who loves them most!
A PRISM Topic: is God’s Word on a single subject. A Relationship Topic is a perspective from God's Word on relationships. A PRISM Topic Packet is a grouping of PRISM or Relationship Topics of similar subjects... part of the M: Meditate on the Word of PRISM – (5 Things You Can Do Daily in God’s Word) to transform the way you think. Ask God what PRISM Topic or Relationship Topic He wants you to meditate on today. Take your PRISM Topic, Relationship Topic or Packet with you! Come back to them multiple times a day! “It is to be with him, and he is to meditate on it day and night, so that he may learn to fear the LORD…” - Deuteronomy 17:19
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